We were gathered around the table, drinks in hand, chatting and sipping like ladies typically do when engaging in girl’s night out festivities. Our booth was just big enough to fit five women and their chic Thursday night fashions. Two single, two dating, and one taken, aka married. Our second round was quickly coming to a close when the married friend slammed her glass against the table. She tilted her head back, and with her eyes to the ceiling, she declared, “I really don’t like sucking d*ck you guys!”
A hush fell over the table. Some faces turned to concern and others to confusion. Okay, I’ll admit that I was in the confused category. My naive little fantasy mind just reasoned that you had to be a member of the EDSC (Expert D*ck Sucking Club) to get someone to commit to forever with you, to marry you. Hell, for you to even get fianc’d. That’s my word. Yes, I made it up and I like it.
Anyway, I needed more so I inquired, “But you’re married. Who the hell married your non d*ck sucking ass?!”
She’s my boo thang, plus I was at her wedding so it was a rhetorical question. I knew her husband. He was a stand up gentleman. Maybe he was simply being extremely patient with his wife.
Then another friend, little miss sassy, eagerly chimed in, “Well personally, I love it! And my man loves it too.” We couldn’t help but laugh. Although, strangely enough she may have sparked a good question: if you like performing fellatio does that lend you to being better at it?
After a few slick comments and many questions, we got down to the basics. My married friend didn’t like the act. She didn’t feel that she was good at fellatio. It wasn’t something that she was eager to master. Maybe her insecurity about her skill level was clouding her ability to be great. However, she knew that she’d better get into the act or risk her husband getting his needs met elsewhere. Even though there wasn’t any known threat of him cheating she didn’t want to take that risk.
This made me think. How important is oral in a relationship? Sure, not every man requires it, but I’m guessing that if you took a survey most adults would admit to enjoying good oral. So even if it’s not a requirement for happiness, it may be an enjoyable added bonus.
Miss sassy, who thoroughly enjoyed performing fellatio, ran down a list of her favorite tips while we all sat captivated. One of the key things that she offered was to relax and be open to the interaction.
A few weeks later we received an update from our married girlfriend. She reported that her skill level was consistently progressing and her husband had been pleased with her improvements. Maybe she just needed to talk about it to gain that positive encouragement…I don’t know.
So what do you think…do you have to like performing fellatio to be great at doing it? In general do most women enjoy being the giver? Let me know your thoughts in the comments section below.
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