The episode I watched consists of a twisted lust affair playing out between two of the cast mates, Africa and Jevon aka Vawn. Let’s be clear, Mr. Vawn (above) is very handsome and Miss Africa (below) is gorgeous in her own right as well. So now you have two beautiful people trying to make sense of their newfound romance. The only problem is Vawn has already made sense of it from his perspective. Vawn attempts to brainwash Africa to ride on his train of bull***t, which he spews continuously under the guise of keeping it real.
Many women have been in a similar situation before. From the outside observing, it is not hard to see all the signs of Africa getting played for a fool. She is making up excuses to explain to her friends the ridiculousness that is her arrangement with Vawn. They are friends with benefits who value and practice honesty with one another. But it is clear that Vawn is setting all the rules. It seems that Africa knows that she should guard her heart when it comes to Vawn, but she disregards her sensibilities to enjoy the fantasy.
Everything is going smooth and Africa is doing a great job pretending that she is on the same page as Vawn with the understanding that they are just casually dating (or rather sleeping together). However, things start to take a turn when she begins to sincerely develop feelings for him. She wants to have the “what are we” talk and like a true playa, he says just enough to keep her hanging on without making any promises for the future. Is this starting to jog your memory of relationships past?
Here comes the drama, things come to a screeching halt when Vawn exiting a party stage left with another woman snaps Africa back into reality. She is left standing there in her feelings and angry because she knows that he is not leaving to play 2 a.m. butt naked Jenga.
As women, so many of us lie to ourselves and profess that we can separate our feelings from sex. If a man tells you that he does not want anything serious you put on your brave stern face and say neither do I. So he is basically telling you that he is going to slut around, but keep it real, because there is no exclusivity, and you sign up with a smile.
It is all lies; you care what he does and whom he does it with. But your cards don’t show until, like Africa, you get left to pick your heart up off of the floor. Everything was all good while he was paying Africa attention and spouting his “I’m keeping it real” lines, but when the attention shifts to the next woman in your face, then boom your feelings are hurt.
His response when confronted days later, “What do I owe you?” I think it was a valid question. She said that she could get with his screwed up plan of action. Don’t cry now.
Don’t get me wrong, I truly feel for any woman out there who is allowing their self to be blinded and going through a similar situation. I’m not here to pass judgment, but it was crazy watching the show knowing that I’ve been in the exact same situation, but didn’t know how silly and gullible I looked from the outside looking in.
Have you been stuck on stupid before?
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